When you experience dissatisfaction, pain or hardship in life, you’re suffering. More often than not, the dissatisfaction, pain or hardship isn’t coming from the circumstance, it’s coming from the stories we’re telling ourselves about the circumstances.
It’s emotional or psychological suffering.
Example: You go on a bad date. Now you’re convinced that you’ll be alone for the rest of your life.
Circumstance: you went on a bad date.
Suffering: the story that you created for yourself about being alone forever.
It’s not that the circumstance isn’t true or painful - maybe it was a reallllly bad date - but the stories make it worse. Meaning that oftentimes we create unnecessary suffering for ourselves.
Cue in life coaching! Coaching is all about challenging the thoughts and stories that we tell ourselves so that we can reach a better state of well being. We become happier and feel more in control of our response to life because we see the circumstances for what it is. The scary stories don’t get to be on autoplay anymore. You get to decide what meaning you’d like to make of it.
Today I'm joined by a fellow coach, Amber Goodenough, and we talk all things coaching.
- What does life coaching help with anyway?
- How can you know if a coach can help you?
We share a tool with you that you can use on yourself to relieve any emotional grief or suffering that you're experiencing - from self doubt to overwhelm to judgement and shame.
Topic Summary:
- How does life coaching help?
- How to know when you need a life coach
- Byron Katie’s The Work
- Demo of coaching tool for problem: life plans got derailed because of COVID-19. Amber was going to move to her favorite city but now that’s on hold. Dealing with the grief and disappointment of it.
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Key Nuggets:
What does a life coach do for you?
Somebody to walk alongside you and help you grow and shift.
Help you see the things that are holding you back that you might not see.
It’s different than talking out your problems with a friend because your life coach won’t try to fix anything or prescribe answers for you. They keep an objective point of view and pushes you to look in the dark places all with the intention to guide you to your own inner knowing.
They’re different than a therapist because life coaching is forward looking. You go to therapy to deal with past traumas. Your life coach helps you answer the question of “now what? how do I move forward?”
Getting Answers For Your Life
The thing is, you already have the answers within you. Coaching and the coaching tools are there to guide you toward it.
The Work:
Byron Katie’s The Work is a fundamental tool in our toolkit. If you answer just 4 simple questions, you can start cracking down on the grief causing stories in your life. It helps you stop feeling so bad and reign in on the worst thoughts (ex. I’m not good enough, I can’t ever make it, everybody hates me, he doesn’t love me anymore….you name it).
Demo of the work:
I coached Amber with The Work. Because of COVID, she’s had to delay her big move to California, which is one of her favorite cities. Now it feels like she has to put her happiness on hold and there’s grief and disappointment that comes with that.
Resources:
Byron Katie offers tools for The Work for free on her website thework.com
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